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Thursday, August 1, 2013

Rules of Engagement

A Few Things Before We Get Started:

1.  Copycats. I read a lot. I read a lot for work, and I read a lot because I don't sleep well. And by not well I mean not at all. Not. At. All. One of the things I read are blogs.  Now if you are blogger and you stumble across my embryonic (and some may even say moronic) blog and you see something that looks like it may have been influenced by your blog, well, then it may very well have been; however, if I am so head-over-heels in love with your turn-of-phrase or awed by a picture you have taken or a project you DIYd you have my solemn promise that I will represent you as the site of origination.  I will ALWAYS give you your props. Swear it.

2.  Don't Be Mean. Mean seems to be in the 2000-teens what dumb was in the 1990s.  I don't like mean; I love funny and silly and stupid, and even gross to a certain extent, but mean is, well, mean. I have this phenomenal opportunity to create something that means so much to me and hopefully will mean something to someone somewhere so I simply ask that we treat each other respectfully.  As Glennon Doyle Melton says, "Don't be a jerk."  (See #1. She also says something that has become my mantra this year:  Breathe, show up and do the next right thing. I should probably get that parenthetical citation out of the way right here and right now).

3.  Privacy.  While this blog is about me and my journey and I am completely open to using my own name to describe my experiences; my family and friends are being dragged along without their permission (or knowledge at this point) and may not feel so inclined about my openness.  Henceforth, you will know my name; however, the rest of my cast of characters, suspects, perpetrators and victims in my life's little passion plays will remain anonymous in an effort to protect the innocent, the guilty and the downright infantile.  Do not even ask me how I will do this! But that's what I have decided...it will be a Tim Gunn moment.

4.  Politics and Religion.  I have views, values and tenets that I hold very dear to my heart just as I am sure that you do, as well; however, there will be no engaging in political debate over here. Period.  It's simple, I am really not that bright and I have nothing but my gut to back me up on any of my beliefs.  Basically, I think we can agree that we all have a right not to be afraid; to not go to bed with an empty belly and to know we can get medicine if we are sick. How we go about accomplishing this as a society is the REAL debate. That won't be happening here. Sorry. Go to CNN or The Daily Show or wherever people who "know" go. Besides, how can you take a blog called hugs and kisses Darya seriously on such topics? I know my place. And I am okay with that.

5.  Bad Language. Someone I love dearly said to me after a particularly "salty" rant, "Darya Jo, you have a filthier mouth than any truck driver on my dock."  Well, fuck you very much. JK.  Honestly, I want to do better; I certainly know better. I live a pretty formal and uptight life so my language choices are not very congruent with most of my lifestyle. That being said, it just comes down to sometimes there are no other words that express the same thought in the same manner.  Unfortunately, obscenities are just a really lazy way of expressing ourselves, and I am the laziest perfectionist you will ever know.  See my dilemma.  Which leads me to a word about grammar. I will try my level best to talk real good but because I also work more-than-full time AND am the primary caregiver for my 85-year-old live-in mother-in-law, I may have to pound out a thought without the proper time to proof and edit. Again, not a very congruent life--I can hear your thoughts already lazy and makes excuse, we are off to a great start here.

Happy first official post!

xoxo Darya